Andy Lykens

I didn’t really give too much thought before typing this but I thought it would be interesting to write about, and I’m bored and putting off reading, a project, and generally killing time.

A question was asked of me recently whether or not love between two people ever existed in the first place if these two people were in a serious relationship and then split.

I think its always important to weigh certain factors in things of this nature – fidelity for one. But lets presume there was no infedelity and two people who had claimed to love each other split.

The hardest part about this question is that love can’t really be defined. Some people say they find their soul mate and being with them is the only thing they can ever picture themself doing – yet this is rare. More typically people define love as a goal between two parties attracted to each other initially by appearance and conversation, or mental attraction if you will.

I feel like love is completely subjective. Everyone probably has their own ideas about it and are expecting it through the course of certain situations. What’s interesting is that poeple say “you just know” when you’re in love a lot. This is an interesting concept because it requires trusting one’s own judgement about their current situation. People can typically convince themselves of anything, I doubt love would be any different.

So say you convince yourself in love, you really “know it” when in fact you aren’t. Obviously in this situation love would not have occurred in the first place…or would it? Humans create things in their minds every day, plans, schemes, plots, music, and these things exist for a certain point in time in an untangible form, floating about in their bits of brain matter. I think its quite possible love can be created – in fact, chances are the person who created this love is not the one who would eventually do the splitting up – it’d be the other person. So here love would exist but not necessarily between both parties.

But what if you constantly doubt yourself? In this particular scenario you’d be doubting ever being in love, not be in the right situation for it or at the right time in your life, and you could entirely be in love but not really realize it until after the tragic split. Here love would have existed in the first place, and it continues to exist most likely for a certain period of time.

Finally there are those people who just fall face down in a puddle of love and never look back. Chances are they won’t split so the question can’t really apply here.

Here are my thoughts on the matter. If you actually do convince yourself you’re in love, then love exists because you’ve created it. Whether the love is shared is another story. If you don’t believe yourself to be in love, then realize it later, obviously the love existed at some point in time. Now in both of these situations it IS possible that both parties do not feel the same way. So a shared love would be non-existent, but love itself may have been fostered by one of the parties and therefore existed, or still exists, to that person.

Instead of being able to sleep an extra two hours this morning as I originally conceived, I got a phone call waking me at 9am. “Andy we need you here” said my advisor. The whole time I’m thinking “if they called me in just to take attendance, I just might kill them.” What happened? I go into the office, get the attendance sheet (which I left out the night before for the advisor to bring to class, use, then return on my desk), go to class, pass it out and then am left incredibly pissed off as one advisor says “I’m going to take my cat to the vet” and the other says “I’m going to get coffee before my next class.”

Awesome. I’m so glad i was “needed” this morning so I could pass out, then collect, an attendance sheet. I’d almost rather not have free school and get to sleep in.

This is a pretty interesting concept that my buddy told me about when we were chatting over drinks the other night. It has to do with the concept of coincidence and spirituality, or rather science vs. spirituality. We talked about it very in-depth but this basic concept I find pretty interesting.

We were talking about how we find it realtively impossible that human life exists in the fine balance on which we teeter because of mere coincidence. That somehow a big explosion could not have been so perfectly random that the earth orbit just far enough from the sun and loop around in perfect elipses – mere centimeters from firing off into space, having the planet be an ice tundra or an inferno not suitable for life. So Dave said the following:

Consider this. We know the universe, or at least our solar system and what we know of the universe, is based on elipses. These elipses are perfect. If they weren’t perfect we would burn, freeze, or be shot off into space.

Now let’s take the atom. We know that electrons circle the atom’s core and they do so in a specific and also perfict orbit. The interesting thing is that when we try and break the atoms, the catastrophic happens – an atomic explosion.

It is interesting that this microcosm of the universe carry similar devastating properties when destroyed, as the earth would be destroyed if we were to somehow alter its place in orbit.

End Dave’s Musing.

It seems a basic pattern is evident. What uses pattern? Pattern in its simplest form is quite simply used to create things. A machine can crank out 100 of the same tupperware containers because someone created a pattern and stuck with it. Sure they varied the shapes and sizes, but the result, AND the underlying pattern is quite similar. Who created the pattern? Man.

The bible says God created Man in his own image. Now if you’re agnostic like myself you come across a lot of things in the bible that were most likely just fables or parables to prove a point or to explain the unexplainable in a time where there weren’t other means. At the same time there are a few basic things that ARE accepted universally in the bible like Jesus’ life and the existence of many biblical characters which means that there are most likely other truths as well. A divine being creating something in his own image doesn’t seem that far fetched. This is a possibility.

It is also possible that a divine being created the huge explosion which set things into motion and paved the way for evolution which would eventually lead the way for a creature coming about which resembles its creator.

It doesn’t really prove anything but its interesting to think about. I certainly believe there ARE coincidences but i also believe that many things happen for a reason. It just seems like the universe and its microcosm the atom, are too much alike for there not to be some serious thought given as to whether or not it and we are some bit of divine tupperware.